Solo sex and the free and unfettered enjoyment of nudity and erotica are a wonderful a gift from God. But as wonderful as all of that is, we must maintain proper priorities. It should always be:
- Spousal sex before solo, and
- Pray then Play. The joy of His Presence before the pleasures of our penis.
Spousal before Solo
To see and touch and kiss
a breast is to be preferred over
stroking while watching someone else
touch and kiss a breast!
That a man would prefer solo sex to spousal is a mystery to me, unless he is married to a cantankerous ugly shrew and the idea of being intimate with her is a complete turn-off. To see and touch and kiss a breast is to be preferred over stroking while watching someone else touch and kiss a breast! The same goes for every other sexual act we may enjoy.
And no matter how delightful you find your Fleshlight or Tenga Egg, nothing can compare to the vagina of a woman who loves you. To say nothing of the emotional and spiritual dimensions of marital love making!
Married sex is uniquely blessed by God and is a pathway into His Presence. Always prefer spending time with her rather than with yourself, if at all possible. Masturbation has its rightful place, but not as a replacement for married sex.
Pray then Play
The man who ministers to His own sexual needs to the detriment of His time with God and ministering to Him is not wise. We need to value our time in His Presence, however that may manifest itself for each of us. If we have a day when we must choice between our quiet time with God or our time spent pleasuring ourselves, time with Him is of greater benefit and will bless us immeasurably more. Pray, then Play.
For each of us our spiritual life manifests in both common and unique ways. Common to all of us is the need to invest time in
- Reading God’s Word,
- prayerful fellowship with Him, and
- worshipping Him with others on the Lord’s Day.
After that there are many other disciplines we can enjoy, some of which may be rather unique to ourselves.
A sacrament is a physical means of entering into and expressing a spiritual reality. We already know that married sex is sanctified and blessed with God’s presence. When we enter and enjoy the sacred delights of the bridal chamber we experience God’s joy.
But what about nudity? What about masturbation? What about erotica? Is there a spiritual and sacramental dimension to feasting our eyes on naked images? Is there such a dimension to solo sex?
A Supplement, not a Substitute
Yes there is.
- Nudity reflects the beauty of God in the pinnacle of His Creation and, rightfully enjoyed, causes the heart to sing praises to the Creator.
- Erotica refects His beauty in the expressions of love between a husband and wife.
- Masturbation brings us wonderful and God ordained and blessed pleasure.
Nudity and erotica and masturbation
can be enjoyed in a way that
glorifies God and brings us into
both physical delight and
the delights of His Presence.
So yes. Nudity and erotica and masturbation can be enjoyed in a way that glorifies God and brings us into both physical delight and the delights of His Presence. Each of these are sacramental experiences.
There are many sacramental experiences. Walking in nature. Sex between a husband and wife. The enjoyment of a wonderful meal with good friends. These are physical acts that can connnect us with and bring us closer to God. But none of them function in a way that replaces the primary spiritual disciplines. They are wonderful and infused with the Spirit of God, but they are still only secondary paths.
The sacrament of Masturbation does bring us wonderful God ordained and God blessed pleasure. But as glorious as both the process and the pleasure are, it does not bring us the wisdom, knowledge and understanding we can receive through God’s Word. It does not allow us to more clearly hear God’s voice, share our heart with Him, and become one with His purpose as we do in prayer. And it does not provide the sense of community, an opportunity to worship God in song, to hear scripture and a homily, and to receive the Body and Blood of Christ like participating in public worship. Masturbation is not a spiritual substitute, it is a spiritual supplement. And as a spiritual supplement it should be done prayerfully, thanking God for the privilege and pleasure of each and every stroke, rejoicing in the delight of that moment of orgasm and release. It is merely a supplement to our spiritual life, but a wonderful supplement it is!
Feedback welcomed and appreciated.
Christians, Nudity and Erotica
And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.